{"id":4080,"date":"2015-05-03T05:20:34","date_gmt":"2015-05-03T09:20:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/triciatierneyblog.com\/?p=4080"},"modified":"2015-05-03T05:20:34","modified_gmt":"2015-05-03T09:20:34","slug":"sparks-of-joy-embers-of-sadness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/triciatierneyblog.com\/?p=4080","title":{"rendered":"Sparks of Joy, Embers of Sadness"},"content":{"rendered":"

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up<\/a> by Marie Kondo is a wildly popular little book that has been sitting on the bestseller list for a few weeks. It’s a bit wacky and wonderful, and somehow, incredibly motivating. Basically, the author suggests that you get rid of anything that does not spark joy in you. I confess, I’d read only a few chapters before launching full speed ahead into sorting out the joy from no-joy in my closet. Doing this with Winter clothing was easy — especially after this year’s grueling season. I was all too happy to give a heave-ho to my woolies and packed up 3 garbage bags.<\/p>\n

Hidden in the behind my clothes was also something I’d been ignoring for 11 years – since my husband’s death. An oversized blue duffle bag full of papers documenting symptoms of his demise including collection letters, bank notices, recovery books and saddest of all, his return plane ticket to England for May 5, 2004. \u00a0He never got on that flight, instead, in the early hours of May 1st, he chose to end his life.<\/p>\n

I’d held onto this bag of sadness for more than a decade. Why? To remind myself of what a lost cause our marriage had become? Proof I had done what I could? I don’t need that kind of reminder any more. As the years have passed, it’s gotten easier to remember the wonderful things about the father of my daughter, the man I’d once been wild about. The funny, warm, generous guy he was before addiction swallowed our marriage and eventually, him. Time has delivered healing, allowing me to better remember the laughter, adventure and love we shared. On a recent balmy night – too warm for a fire, I sat in front of the fireplace feeding the flames with sad history, sparks flying up the chimney into the night sky.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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